ABOUT THE MENOPAUSE FAIRY
As The Menopause Fairy I now help other women fine tune their lives as they discover their “A-HA MOMENTS” and discover happiness and pursue their true purpose. Over the years I have had the honor and privilege of helping women all over the world get clear on their dreams and goals while helping and supporting them as they found their balanced hormonal health and peace.
It was moving day. A time to celebrate my newfound freedom and resiliency that I found after going through bankruptcy, the loss of my stepmother and several friends, and resigning from a job that I loved along with the politics that I didn’t (unfortunately they went hand in hand).
Two friends were in the front seat with me of the truck that I was driving and we were enjoying great conversation in between eating breakfast and strategizing the move. I was excited about my new nanny job as I LOVE being a modern day Mary Poppins, and didn’t have to worry about the stresses and strains of teaching in a classroom anymore.
The smiles and the laughter ended abruptly as the truck was suddenly hit by another vehicle from behind. The left rear bumper was hit in just the right spot to send the truck into a spin across several lanes of traffic. I prayed and watched in horror, and seemingly slow motion, as the truck headed straight for a guard rail that blocked off a 50+ foot embankment. It was a surreal experience and I am convinced that Angels took the wheel and guided my foot OFF the gas petal as we were already going 55 miles an hour. I somehow turned the wheel ‘into’ the spin so as to not flip OVER the guardrail and instead smashed INTO it on the drivers’ side sending both passengers and all the food to ‘sandwich’ me up against the door. Since we were in motion when we crashed, the trajectory of the impact bounced us off the guardrail. The truck finally stopped perpendicular to the road blocking 4 of the 5 lanes with debris everywhere.
I sat there stunned and shaking. My friends were fine but I was about to find out that I was not. I did not realize how hard my head had hit the window, it all happened so fast. At the hospital I was treated for my head and chest injuries as well as bumps and bruises. I had a difficult time with balance and even finishing a sentence. Every possible fear and paranoia came up, making each day difficult to get through. Dealing with the insurance process was a long, drawn-out nightmare! I couldn’t sleep, started having night sweats, had trouble orienting myself to daily functions and felt completely lost and overwhelmed. Little did I know that the accident “threw” me into Perimenopause. I was a ticking time-bomb of emotions and reactions that had me not recognizing who I was. My behavior was erratic and so far from lady-like that there were actually times when I had to lock myself in my apartment for fear of starting an argument with strangers because I would get so enraged! Over what? I don’t know. It didn’t matter. Nothing made sense anymore. I would go from calm to crazy in 3 seconds flat. I isolated from friends and my partner bared the brunt of my rage. The thoughts that went through my head scared me. Suddenly Lorena Bobbitt seemed like my hero.
Feeling like the whole world was imploding on me I decided to get some help. I sought the help of a chiropractic neurologist who I am convinced was pivotal in me regaining my balance, health and sanity. Realizing that my symptoms, reactions and behavior were not only from the accident but from perimenopause, I devoured information on the subject and found solace in the stories of other women experiencing similar symptoms and struggles as I continued with physical therapy. I discovered that I was not alone on my journey, or crazy, and that this wouldn’t last forever. The challenge was dealing with it while it WAS happening. I needed a way to push through and come out on the other side like a champ! Knowing that there were others in ‘the same boat’ helped me ‘calm my crazy’ and get down to business of planning my escape route from this seemingly hellish situation. After almost 30 years of being a teacher it was my turn to once again be the student.
At this stage of the game I had to ‘go within’ to figure out what was going on. I had to work on myself daily and search out the answers that were right for me.
That is where The Menopause Fairy came in. I so wished that there was a real one and that she could help me. I realized that I had to help myself. I decided that midlife and menopause had so much to offer and had many gifts to give me. I found a way to not only survive it but thrive during it so I decided to be my own Menopause Fairy and I could take that idea and help others. The Menopause Fairy developed as a way to be a resourceful “change agent” not only for myself but also for friends and family. Now its time to share this journey and solutions with YOU!
I started blogging when I found out about a 30 day blogging challenge. I was able to express myself, communicate with others and start to enjoy the midlife rollercoaster. I invite you to take a look and share your rants, raves, opinions, input, stories, successes, failures and everything in between. This blog will allow us to come together as a caring community of woman to share the secrets and treasures of transition and live life to the fullest. We can celebrate triumph over tragedy, conquer the chaos overcome the overwhelm.
It is my sincere wish that you find peace and happiness on your midlife journey and if The Menopause Fairy can be a part of that- then it’s a wonderful thing! Know that you are not alone and that there is a lot of help and many resources out there. If I can help you through the blog, FB page, email, workshops, retreats, events or programs please don’t hesitate to call on me!